Even as we are moving further into this paradigm shift, we are clearly in the early stages of this grand transition. This is why we still find ourselves in a world operating under the shadow cast by the unconscious masculine, whose modus operandi is the domination and suppression of the sacred feminine in all of its expressions.
For the unconscious masculine to be brought to consciousness, we men have to do the work of bringing awareness to those aspects of ourselves that we have been wounded into repressing, suppressing, numbing, avoiding and flat out denying.
While these survival mechanisms are a natural reaction to trauma, serving their purpose by keeping us alive through physically or emotionally life threatening circumstances, they do so at a high cost of stunting our emotional and relational development.
Regardless of whether you believe in reincarnation or not, considering the cross generational nature of the trauma we carry in our psyche, the work of bringing light to our darkness is literally the work of many lifetimes. Which is why this men's work is so important to begin as soon as we have the awareness to engage in it consciously.
The alternative of allowing our unconscious wounding to shape our experience of life, and egoic defense mechanisms to dictate our relationship to Self and Other without our critical examination, means that we will remain prisoners of the past, never free to become the fullness of who we truly are.
Worse yet, we will inevitably act as perpetrators of the same unconscious masculine force which wounded us and cut us off from our inner feminine, resulting in a never-ending search for the "one" who will fulfill us and take away the emptiness we feel underneath all the masks we wear. Then after finding such a one, we will unconsciously project all the shadow that we have yet to work through upon them, justifying our abuse and/or abandonment of them before moving onto the next.
Looking at the world today we will find statistics on the violence, death, and destruction which quantifies the impact of the shadow cast into the world by the unconscious masculine. Statistics like:
1 in 5 women and 1 in 73 men will be raped their life.
1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually abused before they turn 18.
12.3% of women were age 10 or younger at the time of their first rape/victimization, and 30% of women were between the ages of 11 and 17.
27.8% of men were age 10 or younger at the time of their first rape/victimization.
96% of people who sexually abuse children are male, and 76.8% of people who sexually abuse children are adults.
325,000 children are at risk of becoming victims of commercial child sexual exploitation each year.
The average age at which girls first become victims of prostitution is 12 to 14 years old, and the average age for boys is 11 to 13 years old.
This is not to mention the millions of men, women, and children killed in wars, genocides, and murders in even just the past century. Nor am I focusing much on other manifestations of the unconscious masculine such as imperialistic governments and predatory profit-over-people institutions, such as the US gov and FED who bailed out the criminal banks to the tune of over 17 trillion dollars during the real estate crash with tax payer money.
These statistics serve to highlight the fact that most wounded men never mount the inner resources to heal, and instead continue perpetrating the terror of the unconscious masculine, often living as both victim and victimizer.
Since our wounding disconnects us from our inner feminine nature, it is easier for some men to forsake their integrity so that they may temporarily live as a king of a fiction constructed by their own ego. Yet, we cannot run from the truth for long, no matter how deep into the illusion we dive to hide from the pain we secretly carry in our hearts, we will have to face it eventually.
Anyone who has done the work knows that it isn't easy to face the depth of our depravity, to take ownership for that which we might criticize or even condemn in another. For it takes both strength and courage to truly feel the trapped emotions from real or perceived abuse and/or abandonment in our early years, regardless of how picture perfect it may have seemed on the outside. As well as how we have subsequently abused and abandoned others as well as ourselves. The harsh reality is the vast majority of boys and girls do not enter adulthood without deep wounds and a good deal of psychic baggage.
All that I have written above and so much more is why we men gather in circle and share hearts in conscious brotherhood. If we are honest with ourselves then we will see clearly why it is imperative that we unite outside of the artificial constructs which keep us divided. And instead come together to create a space of acceptance, openness, honesty and compassion, where we can meet the truth residing within our brothers' hearts.
In our solidarity we empower each other to see and share our shadow, feel the depth of our emotions, reconnect to our inner feminine, and consciously accept full responsibility for our lives. These circles create the space through which we can face ourselves and each other, bringing light to our unconsciousness that we may grow to embody the conscious masculine to such a degree that we become the change that we wish to see in the world.
I thank my brother Fabian for co-leading this last Men's Soul Circle with me. It was powerful aligning and holding space as brothers on this path of awakening. I thank each of you my brothers for showing up and being so courageous to feel and open up in radical vulnerability. The tears we shed together reminds me of how rare it is ever for men to feel such raw emotion amongst each other. This work is sacred and I love and honor every one of you for engaging in it. I look forward to the impact each of you will continue to have on one another and our communities. In deep gratitude I say A'HO!